The fight for gender equality has come a long way. Some would say that we’ve finally won, but did we really, or were we just tricked into giving up other rights in the process? What right was that? To be feminine of course.
All humans deserve to be treated equally in respect, opportunities, and rights. However, just because we can, not mean we should be obligated. After all, when something becomes compulsory, is it actually a choice at that point?
In this case, the tables have been turned, flipped upside down, and inside out. Quite literally, the world is conditioning women to be men, and men to be women. Of course, I have my theories as to why, but this post is controversial enough.
The biology we ignore
When it comes to biology we have moved very far from the old scientific model. We view this field of science as something we can ignore and modify based on the current political climate.
In the professional world especially, we completely act like we don’t see color, gender, or differences. In reality, diversity makes us more unique than slapping on our I’m not discriminating blinders.
Here’s an obvious one, men and women are different. I recognize that I run the risk of being canceled at this very statement, but I just had to say it!
On a physical level, men are usually a bit bigger and stronger than women. Internally, they have a completely different system as well. This is the fundamental reason why we think and behave differently.
Despite us categorizing females and males in the animal kingdom due to their clear and respective roles in the ecosystem, as the smartest species on this planet, we fail to recognize the difference between men and women. I’d vote for dolphins next if it weren’t for their psychotic and demonic behavior in the sea ( IYNYK ).
An example of this is how men are typically a bit more logical, rather than emotional. You can argue that society has conditioned men not to value emotions as much, and that is true. Nonetheless, a few hundred years of conditioning does not override thousands if not a million years of evolution.
On the other hand, women are cyclical in their emotions and behaviors. We also have bodies that were not designed to handle the immense amount of stress we put them through today. We continuously ignore this, because of equality.
Today more than ever, women are depressed, burnt out, and have various autoimmune diseases. Correlation does not always lead to causation, but in this case, it does.
The normal you choose
Being a girl boss is great! Having a successful business and being financially independent is of course something every woman should have access to.
The problem is that we no longer have a choice in the matter. Even worse, anyone who openly expresses the urge to dominate as a feminine woman is criticized. The evil eye from unhappy masculine women and whispers make this very clear.
The current culture has normalized many concerning things, but that doesn’t mean it is correct. Ancient cultures and civilizations got a lot of things right, yet we ignore them as being primitive and uneducated.
The new normal doesn’t have to land on one stream end of the spectrum. It should acknowledge the validity of the old ways, and allow for the freedoms of modern-day women.
The equality debate
What is equality, and how should we define it? From a biological standpoint, it would be a lie to say that the average man and women are equal in strength. However, from a lens of productivity in different areas of life, both have qualities that are of equal importance.
As stated at the beginning of this post, all humans should have equal opportunities and respect. Yet, I dare to say that men and women are not equal, at least not in the way you’ve been fooled into thinking.
The question should not be rather we are equal or not. A better question would be, how we can better complement each other’s strengths and help to fill in the gaps of our weaknesses?
How masculine and feminine energy work together
Feminine energy is that of creation. The biggest representation of this is women who can physically create life on this planet from their womb. As women, we facilitate life, innovation, and new ways of being. We nurture our ideas into physicality, while subtlety fostering shits in the world.
Masculine energy is easily seen as a container that holds shelter, protection, and physical power. If we were speaking of architecture, the feminine energy would design the blueprint for the house. The masculine energy will build it and make sure each component is functioning properly.
The average modern-day woman is reluctant to declare her need for a man. I’ve seen women go as far as to get angry when men open doors for them because they are “totally capable” and he is supposedly being sexist.
This is the issue! Yes, women are more than capable of doing most things men can do. We are free to have our own jobs, slave away doing something we hate, and deal with harassment from our weird male colleagues.
We can then go on to bear children, go back to work 2 weeks later as if nothing has changed, and then struggle to provide for our kids while going 50/50 with a grown man. But do you want to?
Is pride holding you back?
Pride seems to be the biggest culprit for our modern-day dilemma. Many women feel like they are giving something up by expressing their femininity. They inwardly feel the stigma of being a weak and incapable woman who is beholden to a man. That’s an extreme case that has only been perpetrated to instill fear in women wanting different.
In reality, the woman we call subservient to a man is being fully provided for, has her own money, and has a side business that she is passionate about. Depending on who she marries, she may want for nothing and live like a queen.
Yet, she still gets to spend time with her kids and stay wrinkle-free for as long as possible. In my obviously biased opinion, one of these examples sounds better than the other. Can you guess which one it is?
Pride and ego have always been our fatal human flaws. We would rather burn ourselves out to please society than take a step back and ask ourselves what would make us happy – regardless of the current “normal” trends.
Many women also have limiting beliefs that shut down any thoughts of a feminine lifestyle. These are often the people you see judging others who are living the life they want.
Final Thoughts
In my own experience, the alternative to embracing femininity leads to a feeling of confusion and unhappiness. For a long time, I pondered the missing link between me and the women on my vision board.
Finding myself through the lens of divine feminine energy was nothing I had to force. It was more like coming home to something I had always known.
It starts with honesty and asking yourself a few questions. Here is a couple of bonus journal prompts.
In my past relationships, who was predominantly in the masculine role?
When I see feminine women, what are the first thoughts that cross my mind? Explore this, It will reveal a lot about your current beliefs and what you need to work on.
